Glimpse 1 - Finding Focus

I'm a professional coach. I'm trained in this. Spent years studying and practicing, supported well over 2000 people in doing exactly this... and I've even taught others how to do it. And yet...my ability to find focus these past few months has been riddled with what I thought was a chronic patter of distraction from re-starting my own business and getting on with my life.

The patter of distraction goes like this: mom and dad are in their very late 80's and have had serious health issues. A good friend has been burnt out and down on her luck and is sharing my home while transitioning right now. Feelings of betrayal by a few well intentioned and loving friends who just couldn't spit their truth out at me directly had me reeling. An opportunity I didn't have the guts to stand up and fight for no longer exists in one form and the guilt and shame related within it. My only child dealing, coping and facing a rare disorder and it's been atrocious and without a cure. Hell even my dog got sick. And yet, we are all still here, moving forward, living on, figuring it out - together. And these have been my "distractions."

And until I sat down with it this morning, I didn't realize it wasn't distraction. It's in perfect alignment with my intention for my life - and there in on the radar of my focus - all of it.

In coaching we work to find, sharpen and hone the focus that often pops up out of a giganzo intention you've set or support you setting for yourself, YOUR life.... Setting a foci/focus is one way to create the barometer for best daily choices and actions, attitudes and boundaries to support and maintain forward growth, movement, strength and fun of building and being in your intentional life.

Don't know what your intentional life looks like? Think you've lost focus? Make a list of the ten biggest life events/challenges you have been working through in the past 90 days. Who are you "being" in these places? What are you wanting for yourself or others when you are standing in those places? Chances are, those area's you are working through and focused on come out of some part, layer or level of what truly creates a giganzo, kick ass, woohoo! intentional life for you.

While I thought I was being distracted - I wasn't. I just didn't realize I am, absolutely, living fully present in the midst of my own intentional life statement. How did I miss this? Are you missing yours too? My giganzo life intention statement is written in a notebook here - of which part of it says - Cyn is of love, kindness, transparency, intelligence, compassion, laughter, truth telling, connection and support of self and others every day of her life.

How did I miss it? Because I wasn't paying attention.

Personal awareness when in coaching or in your life doesn't always mean the glimpse is exactly what you want for others. It is seeing exactly what is and applying your focus and intentional life to any given opportunity when and where you choose. My choice is mine. I've set my intentions. I'm responsible for my choices, actions, attitude and energy. Anything less is claiming victimhood. I'm no victim. Are you?